Parents and teachers of similar ch...

Parents and teachers of similar children often devise elaborate strategems to make steady the homework gets done. These arrangements seldom work for drawn out says Dr. Pecaut, because they don't interpret the underlying problem: the child's conflict through the whole extent of growing up.

The in extent process of letting go, of gradually taking charge of his acknowledge life, is more difficult for one children than for others. The underachiever's unfolding is stymied by the anxiety he perceive s over separating from his parents and becoming independent. He unconsciously clings to childhood on failing to carry out his responsibilities. He may equable welcome attempts to supervise his homework because they bind him closer to his parents.

The parents of this mark of underachiever also have concern letting go, says Dr. Pecaut; they nurse to be overinvolved with their children's lives--especially with their schoolwork.

Guidelines for the waiting game

It's not easy being an underachiever--or the parent of united To ensure the survival of all be of importance toed psychologists and educators offer these suggestions:

1 Don't become too involved with an underachiever's homework--it's counterproductive. Eddie's mother finally settl forward a system that many teachers and psychologists attract favor to She insisted that Eddie disburse certain hours in his expanse doing schoolwork every day. As lengthy as he put in the time, she assumed he'd done the work. (His teacher would lease her know if he hadn't.) She also made it clear that if he did not do it, that was his puzzle With this challenge to take charge--and with support from a therapist--Eddie is becoming more responsible.